The biggest changes can be found in the littlest decisions. In the end, it all comes down to those tiny choices you make along the way.
A decision, even as tiny as not letting a thought about an unpleasant past experience stay in your mind, and just letting it pass without paying much attention to it, helps you save yourself from what could have been a good day dragged down by a negative thought spiraling out of control.
We often think that all the big decisions we take are the life changing ones, like moving to a new city, changing jobs, getting into or out of a relationship etc. While these decisions are big and important, require courage and a lot of thinking, real change comes from the ones we make subconsciously, every single day. The ones we don’t even realize we are making, the ones that define who we are, that decide the life we live and the moments we create.
What I’m talking about here, is the choice to be happy. To look at people and situations as positively as possible and trying your best to not hold on to a negative emotion for too long. We often think that we cannot control the way we feel, or react to things, and thus absorb unwanted negativity.
It is a simple choice really. To say NO to a negative thought or emotion as soon as it enters your mind. It is the choice to be in control.
You see, the life you live is like a body, and your outlook, emotions and thoughts are the brain. It is impossible to live a life without worry if your outlook, emotions and thoughts are constantly negative.
I am in no way saying that this change can be brought on in a minute. In fact, you will probably take the decision to be positive a few times before it actually becomes who you are as a person. But trust me, it works. I can’t help smile when memories of who I used to be flood my mind. Nervous, scared and always expecting something to go wrong. I look at myself today and feel an instant relief, knowing I have everything under control. It’s priceless. The key is to trust, and let go. Whenever you feel worry seeping in, immediately tell yourself, it’s all okay, and release it. It might take a little practice but be patient with yourself.
You see, time moves forward and not backward. We have lost many moments in despair, but the moments where we found joy, are the moments we won. It is well in our capability as intelligent beings , to find joy and meaning in the moments that we have and are about to live. Every little joy, every little choice to hold on, every little time you trust yourself more than a pessimistic vibe, you win. You win that moment, you win at life.
Get this – time is continuous, it won’t stop for you. It gives you new moments that are just moments, and the emotion you attach to that moment, is your decision completely. Choose wisely.
Find your own moment of metanoia. Your moment of transition, your moment of change.
Write your own story.
Blog by Priya D’Silva
M.A. in Sociology
B.A. in Sociology
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