I often think about how much we have changed as human beings since the advent of social media. It seems to have crept into our lives and our consciousness, and somehow somewhere we are all changed by it. It has brought out a side of us that we never even knew we had. It’s created this insatiable need to be accepted, to appear better than than everyone else.
It’s like everybody has something to prove to people they don’t even know. We barely know what life is about life anymore. It seems that if you don’t post about an experience, it’s almost like it never happened. It’s instinctive, to pull out your phone and take a picture for social media.
I often wonder, what ever happened to real moments? The moments where we actually experience the present, the moments that get etched into our minds forever. How many things are actually noticed and appreciated now? We’re in such a hurry to share our moments with the virtual world, that we forget to experience them first. We alter them, filter them and serve them to the world, and sit in anticipation for the validation of those we don’t even know.
It’s okay to like to be praised, to be appreciated. But how far is too far? Is anything private anymore? What is the actual purpose of creating an alternate existence veiled in precisely tailored illusions of a life so perfect, it’s almost other worldly. A competition of who’s lies are better.
But it’s not all lies and display. This virtual world believe it or not has done us some good as well. The luxury of being in touch with those you love, being able to see them, keep up with them, even living across the world, is a blessing. But does the nasty outweigh the good in the virtual world?
Who are we? Is our purpose here nothing but to do everything in order to either please people or be an object of envy? Are we not here to experience? to learn and grow? And can moments not belong just to us? must they be shared? Must they be made to look perfect?
The several walls of filters we have built around us have cut out the light over time, confining us to the deep dark corners of our own insecurities, so much so that reality may seem too bright for us now. We see each other, yet we see nothing. We don’t do anything for ourselves anymore. We do it for our image. We do it to feel important. To feel validated.
Social media is like a window, through which you see things that don’t really exist, they are all beautiful illusions. So perfect, so convincing. It’s not real, yet so addicting. It’s like the Pied Piper, and we the children. Only a matter of time till we walk off the cliff.
We need to realize that we have to be present in every moment and lead our own life and not let an illusion of perfection hypnotize us to such an extent that we reach a point where realize we don’t know what real joy and self love is anymore. Don’t walk yourself off the cliff.
So, the next time you find yourself blessed with a beautiful experience, resist the urge to pull out your phone and capture it. Experience it first. Take it all in first before struggling to share it.
We all have one chance here. Let’s be truly present. To learn, to love, to live. In reality. Not virtually. Be truly present while your story is unfolding. When your time comes, to leave this realm for a new one, it’s your lessons, gifts and experiences that you’ll take with you, not your phone. So let’s put the piper back in our pockets, and may we lead the way. One step towards freedom.
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